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A man’s natural instinct to protect their loved ones is not limited to paternity. Many men experience a heroic instinct when it comes to protecting their loved ones, especially the women they love. These instincts are generally heightened when a man has children. In this article, we’ll talk about what the hero instinct is in men and how you can help unleash it more often.

What is the Hero Instinct?

The hero instinct is your man’s natural drive to want to protect his loved ones. He will always be there for you and he has an incredible sense of responsibility that comes with being a family man.  This desire can also become heightened when his children are involved, as it becomes very important to him that they are safe and happy.

You can unleash the hero instinct in your man in a number of ways, though it typically requires a bit of effort on your part to not only communicate with your guy but also help guide him along the way towards being heroic.

Why is it Important to Trigger a Man’s Hero Instinct?

Your man’s hero instinct is very important for many reasons. It’s just one of the ways in which men show their love, so it’s important to help your guy unleash this protective side when you can. You’ll find that when his hero instinct comes out, he will be much more open with his feelings and emotions, so it’s a great time to ask him questions about himself and how he is feeling.

The hero instinct can also impact your guy’s entire lifestyle from the way that he treats you, his family, friends and even strangers. He’ll be more willing to help those who need it as well as be a little rougher around the edges with those who seek to do someone harm.

Three Types of Hero Deeds

There are three types of hero deeds. They are:

The first are the basic, old-fashioned gestures such as opening the car door for you, lending you his coat, and lifting a heavy thing for you. These may appear to be simple; however, they will only be done out of love for you.

The second are advice-based hero deeds. Giving you suggestions for an interview or which smartphone is better falls into this category. It might be as easy as suggesting a new place to dine or a new way to do your job more efficiently. These are the indicators that he wants to show how beneficial he can be to you.

The third type is the hero treatment hero deeds. This includes all of his unexpected gestures, such as gifts. He can also help you with household chores. It simply implies that he puts your needs first.

Triggering the Hero Instinct

There are many different things you can start doing to help unleash your man’s hero instinct. The first thing is to let him know what the hero instinct is, as men are often clueless about these types of things.  After you both have a better understanding of this concept, it will be easier for you to communicate with each other about how he can be more heroic in certain situations.

The best way for men to unleash their hero instinct is through both communication and expression. So long as you’re willing to do both of these things, your man will be more than happy to unleash his inner hero for you on a daily basis.

List of Ways to Unleash the Hero Instinct in Men

Show Your Appreciation

You can start by telling him how much you appreciate it when he’s a hero with your kids or even just helping out with various things around the house. He will most likely want to please you and will be more than happy to try and become more heroic if that means it will cause you to be happier.

Ask For His Help

Maybe there is something you’ve been wanting to get done around the house, but just haven’t had the time or energy to do it yourself. Asking your guy to step in and be a superhero will definitely cause his hero instincts to come out.

Make Him Feel Needed

It will cause your man to feel really good about himself if you make him feel needed either at home or in the relationship. While this may seem patronizing, it’s definitely not the case . He wants to feel needed and loved just as much as you want to feel that way.

Let Him Protect You

Guys often like the idea of protecting their loved ones, especially their partner. He might enjoy feeling like he’s playing the role of protector, which will allow him to unleash his hero instincts in a way that benefits you both.

Be Vulnerable Sometimes

It’s okay for men (and women) to be vulnerable. Showing your man  that you trust him enough to lean on him makes him feel good about himself and will cause his natural hero instincts to come out.

Praise Him Publicly

When you see your man being heroic, make sure to acknowledge it in front of others. He will enjoy the extra attention and he’ll be much more likely to behave that way again when others are around if he gets positive feedback for it.

Don’t Underestimate His Abilities

Just because he’s not exactly a superhero doesn’t mean that  he’s not capable of being one.  Your man has more talents and abilities than you may realize, so make sure you don’t underestimate him or his hero instinct.

Let Him Know He Makes You Happy

Also, you should let him know how much it means to you when he does certain things for you. A lot of men have a hero instinct, but they don’t really know how to express it very well at times because they aren’t aware of what type of behavior will impress their partners.

Boost His Confidence

You can boost his confidence and cause his hero instinct to come out by telling him how much you admire him. Hearing those three little words from the person they’re closest to makes men feel invincible and always wanting to protect their loved ones.

Show Your Gratitude

Even if he tries his best, but doesn’t quite hit the mark, you should still let him know that you’re thankful for the effort he has made.

Support Him In His Achievements

Just as it’s important for men to protect those closest to them, they also want their loved ones to be there and show unconditional support whenever they embark on a new achievement.

Anticipate His Needs

You can anticipate your man’s needs by asking him what action he would like to take when a certain situation arises. This allows you both to be proactive in keeping each other safe and unleashing the hero instinct when it is needed most.

Final Thoughts

The hero instinct in men is a very powerful force that can be used to your advantage. If you know how to use it correctly, you will have the ability to truly get whatever you want from your man and from your relationship with him. Make sure you keep these tips in mind when dealing with your man in order to unleash his hero instincts.

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What is Hero Instinct?

The hero instinct is your man’s natural drive to want to protect his loved ones. He will always be there for you and he has an incredible sense of responsibility that comes with being a family man.  This desire can also become heightened when his children are involved, as it becomes very important to him that they are safe and happy.

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About the author

Susanne Ricee

Susanne Ricee is the Diversity and Inclusion Specialist and Researcher at Diversity for Social Impact. Sue brings over 15 years of HR and Diversity, Equity, Inclusion consultation experience.
Sue's previous experience includes Microsoft, Target, and Kraft. Sue is also the manager of Diversity Leadership Directory